As I have written, if you are looking for a quick fuck with zero commitment, look no further than Adult Friend Finder. My preference has always been for organic relationships but admittedly there are times even I do not mind the occasional fuck ‘em and forget ‘em story. And while I will never entertain AFF for the long-term, it does have its seasons. I get a lot of questions about the best places to sext and AFF really does have endless opportunities in that department.
So, I was on the website flirting and generally having a good time, when I found a couple guys who persisted beyond the initial appeal. In an environment like AFF, it can be hard to classify these interactions as true connections, because of the obvious limitations inherent in online chatting, but sometimes my interest is piqued beyond the moment. I would not necessarily consider these guys stallions but rather “potential applicants” for the role or just fun stories I am interested in entertaining. These guys checked some of my boxes and hit some/most of my criteria for what I look for in a partner. So, I decided to let the pursuit carry past the nonchalance of AFF.
Let’s start with Nick.
Nick was a nice piece of ass. Not going to lie. The guy was hot and local and those were two qualities I definitely needed in my life. We sexted. We chatted. I wanted to see if there was a legitimate connection to the appeal, so I accepted his offer for a visit. First strike against Nick: he was not good at coordinating his time. There was scheduling and rescheduling and already I was not impressed with the lack of personal organization. Add to the mess that he wanted me to drive to him. Typically, I’d give the giant middle finger and move on but, as said, the guy was hot and local and I was really needing some good sex.
Which brings me to strike two against Nick: the sex was really good but there was no sensuality.
Now, I have no problem getting down to some no-frills fucking. But that requires some actual build. Remember, my libido has a situational component and some random dude on AFF was not about to check the situational box for me. It’s why I can smile as I reflect on guys like my ex-boyfriend or Lucas or even Pepe and Mr. Three-Thrust Lorenzo. Even though the sex was not all that good, the lead-up to the physical more than made up for the lack of performance.
Nick did not have the luxury of an organic lead-up, which meant Nick needed to do some work to check boxes beyond the physical attraction.
Let’s also add to the missed opportunity that he had a long cock and did not always know how best to control it.
PSA time: Guys. Just because you’re rocking a seven+ inches does not mean you are miraculously an incredible lover. “Length alone does not a great lover make” (Vixey, 2021) 😘. In fact, I would argue you fellas with the giant dicks have more work to do. Sex with over-sized cocks requires a woman be producing or using a shit-ton of lube. Communication is imperative. Patience is needed to give the girl time to adapt to the size, if it’s thick. Care must be given to ensure the penetration does not cause any unnecessary discomfort because, despite what porn might tell you, hitting the cervix is not enjoyable if there is not enough preparation for the pounding.
Does that mean I prefer smaller cocks? Not necessarily. A big cock is nice on a long-term stallion who really understands sex. For quick fucks and situations like AFF, where I may only be looking for one encounter, the smaller cocks may actually be more convenient.
Now, let’s get to the sex.
I won’t say I did not enjoy it. I liked his body. I liked the “opening move” because we actually started against the wall. Nick was a tall guy. He was strong, so it was thrilling to being taken in his arms and lifted up to press against the wall as we made out. Somewhere in the heady rush of things, our clothes wound up on the floor and wound up on his couch.
He slid his long cock inside of me and I rocked my hips up to accept his length. We moved together really well. There was a rhythm. Definitely a physical connection. Nick could go for a long time, so no worries about another three-thrust fiasco. We kissed. He thrust deeper and deeper. I wanted his cum. I wanted to feel that last, telling slap of thighs against thighs and the shudder of his body as he released every last drop inside of me. I wanted to feel his collapse and the sweet, tender after-moments where we laugh and whisper and kiss and tease each other into the next round.
Sadly, we never made it past round one. You see, Nick could go for a long time. And Nick was also not the best at controlling the way his cock penetrated me. These two factors coupled to create a scenario where I began to cramp. I think it is crucial to note, this is entirely normal and also avoidable, given those elements I had discussed in the PSA: lube, communication, and patience. None of these things were in play, so the result was a break in the sex to let my body recover.
For his part, Nick was a decent guy about it. He felt terrible. He even texted the next day to check in on me. Maybe that is partially why I was open to seeing him again. I tried a few times to set something up. But you will need to recall that Nick was not good at personal organization. After the second time he ghosted me, I was done. I told him as much and have not heard from him since.
Morale of the story? AFF certainly has its place in open marriage but don’t hope for anything beyond a quick fuck. Also, long cocks require control…and lots of lube!
Lastly, don’t ever ghost a vixen. Because you only get one shot and there’s a line of guys waiting to take your place.
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