Probably best to separate this into two categories: potential and current. As with everything in this lifestyle, preferences will of course be subjective, but I can identify a few common themes for those looking to pursue or keep this vixen.
Potential Stallions:
The pursuit is the game. I love your attention and interest. So step one is to just connect with me. I need to know there is chemistry before we even start to think anything more. Just have fun with me. Your playfulness is a huge turn on so don’t neglect the process of connection.
I love banter with my potential stallions and a good sense of humor. Obviously nothing and no one serious so it is a breath of fresh air when the guy can roll with my snark and dish it back. It screams the confidence I adore. Not arrogance, but the confidence of a man who is supremely secure in himself. Give me that and some good wit, a great look and, “check please”…let’s go back to your place.
That’s it.
For me, a special, and rare, unicorn would be a potential stallion who could achieve all that in a single night: connection, conversation, meetup, more connection and then fuck. Definitely possible and that leads me to my next point.
Initiative.
I love a man who will take some fucking initiative. There is definitely empowerment in female-led encounters but I miss the anticipation and surprise that comes with a man’s resolve to make things happen. It ties directly back to confidence. So let’s chat and laugh and flirt. My go-ahead cues aren’t veiled; in fact, I make them quite obvious. And then just tell me when and where to meet. Done. I can promise everybody will win ;).
To my current stallions:
You are my friends, first and foremost. I don’t mean that as a term of distance. I care deeply about my friends. And if you are my stallion, I hope I have found your friendship as well. This is the thing I covet most in our relationship. The sex is AMAZING. But our friendship is the thing that allows us to lay in each other’s arms afterwards (or more likely in between) and laugh and talk and keep that connection we built together. My stallions are my fuckbuddies in the truest sense of the word. I am there for you just as much in our friendship as I am in the beds we share.
Please also remember our friendship. I love my husband. I do not love you. I will never leave my husband for anything or anyone because what you and I have is a wonderful, beautiful physical fantasy. What I have with my husband is a reality I have built with him for over a decade. There is no amount of money or charm or good looks that could ever replace the investment I have with my husband. Don’t try. Enjoy our time together as much as I do. You’ve got a pretty sweet deal in all this, what with fucking another mans wife with absolutely zero strings attached and no fear of an ass-kicking. From him at least. If you “no call/no show” on me again, I’ll kick your ass (and not in the fun way!…well maybe in both ways 😉).
Seriously though, stallions…CONSIDERATION. Let’s say that again: CONSIDERATION. I have just as much a life as you and when plans are made, it involves a whole shit-ton of moving pieces to ensure schedules align and kids are watched and graduate school assignments are done to give us just a few hours of play. I don’t care to keeps tabs on you. Things come up and it’s all good, my friend. Just communicate because it really does help.
Ok. That may have become a little rant-y but the “grrrr” is fresh ya’ll.
To close, I believe I can sum things up in two words: connection and respect. That’s it, Stallions. Our possibilities together hinge upon the chemistry that is fostered through our connection and nurtured by respect. The variable is simply time and how long it takes to get from connection to sex. Because it can happen, if we want it to happen.
Much love,
Vixey