It began as a curiosity. The pandemic just locked down the nation. I was stuck at home with the rest of humanity and feeling that itch to play. With no clubs and conferences what was a horny vixen to do? This began my search to find some sexual release. Dating apps weren’t going to work because I wasn’t about to hook up during the height of the pandemic. I looked at some sexting apps but wasn’t too impressed. Most were populated by sex workers looking to make money. Not my venue so I kept Looking.
Adult Friend Finder kept coming up in my searches. I was a bit hesitant because it looked like an old school dating site. Eventually a lack of options pushed me to take the plunge. I opened an account. And fuck am I glad I did. AFF functions more like a community experience. Somehow it felt more adult, more intentional. Maybe because it forces everybody to slow down and connect like actual people rather than a swipe right video game? Whatever the case I loved the attention to
For an older site there is a surprising amount of depth. Obviously there are free and paid tiers of membership but I quickly found it was worth it to invest. Where dating apps invite a sort of guessing game of intention, everybody on AFF was there for the same purpose. We are all adults looking to find sexual connections.
It’s like a vixens’ virtual playground.
Now, the only problem I faced was the literal deluge of attention. There are A LOT of horny adults on AFF. As one of the oldest adult connection sites, it makes sense. PSA: ladies want an ego boost? Create an AFF profile, turn on your availability and watch your instant messenger explode with men (and some women and couples) compete for your attention. I won’t lie. It’s fun as hell. It also happens to be where I met one of my stallions.
My recommendation is to go through the entire profile creation process. There is a lot to it but I found the whole thing very enjoyable. Definitely be up front in your synopsis so people know what you’re looking for in the AFF experience. Obviously, if you’re looking for casual friendship or more serious dating, probably keep to the apps. AFF is unapologetically about sex. And that’s something I really appreciate about it: the straightforwardness. Interestingly, AFF is also extremely protective of its community.
There is a zero tolerance for redirects to other sites. Essentially that helps keep things real and eliminate the platform from being inundated with sex worker profiles looking to redirect to their content. I respect that. At the same time, I’m not shy about sending people to my blog when I get questions about open marriage. I’m there to sext and find potential stallions, not duplicate Dear Vixey on another platform.
Obviously, with any online forum, there’s the element of scamming and phishing. It’s pretty easy to spot. Non-member messaged and anybody who asks to switch over to kik is suspect. I steer clear from profiles that were hastily made or lacking in pics and vids that look original. As with all my sexual partners, I vet well before proceeding.
IM is great for a quick sext. It’s “adult friend finder”, so obviously the games and guesswork is minimized. All I have to do is open up my IM, respond to anyone and we are off to the races. And yes when I’m sexting I like to touch myself and sometimes use my toys. I sometimes get questions about the best ways to sext. Maybe soon I’ll share with you a personal example 
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As a PSA to anybody on AFF: I do not respond to everyone. Please do not feel like I am ignoring you, personally. There are simply too many messages. It is also much easier for me to track messages through the contact page on my website
So let’s summarize: Lockdowns fucking suck. AFF is a great, straightforward option for making sexual connections. Make sure the connections are real. Enjoy the sexting!
Happy fucking!