Okay, we need to have a little chit chat about a rather irritating trend I have noticed. This one is for all you potential stallions who have won the attention of a vixen and current stallions who have won this vixen’s attention. It could be a flirty conversation or a night of sexting or even a night of sex. Whatever the level of attention, congrats, you just lucked out on an experience most men would die to have (I know this because I receive messages all the time from guys saying exactly that). Unfortunately, I have found a lot of guys fail to understand the distinction between a vixen relationship and a traditional relationship when it comes to the pursuit and maintenance of her attention. Why is this important, stallions?
Because there are guys literally waiting in line to take your place (hello hundreds of messages at AFF and flirty work friends and random hot guys at the club). To be honest, this is a dynamic I never really considered or expected when entering into open marriage: the sheer quantity of men who want to be with me. I don’t say this in arrogance. It simply is what it is. So, potential stallions, bottom line: let’s not waste each other’s time and attention. If you can’t commit to the game, don’t throw your hat in the ring. It wastes my time and the time of the other guys who are actually serious about a vixen/stallion relationship.
That said, in addition to What I’m Looking For In A Stallion, here are some thoughts on keeping the attention of a vixen:
- I’m not going to chase you. I don’t need to. So if you stop communicating with me or try to play a coy game of one word responses, it’s not going to work out.
- This is not a traditional relationship. I am married so my stability comes from my husband. I ‘will’ get the sexual/romantic relationship I want and I can promise you that stallion will be pleased with the experience. I am very up front about what I want. If you can’t deliver, then make way for the next guy.
Now let’s reference some guys who get it. First up is this BRILLIANT message I received from a reader (seriously take notes):
Second, I know what a good stallion/vixen relationship looks like because I am in one.
Giovanni gets it. Connection. Communication. Respect. A lack of jealousy. He understands what it is to be in an open relationship with a vixen. If anybody needs a stallion mentor, he’s the guy.