Does Size Matter?

The age-old question, right? While porn would have us believe all women like it huge and long and thick, I think this is entirely a subjective thing. I can only speak for myself but for me, the size of a dick is not what gets me excited (sorry unsolicited dick pic senders). To quote a cliche: “it’s how you use it” that matters. And, as always, it’s the context of the sex.

My stag is long and slender. My favorite stallion is thick and not as long. Both get the job done in their own way. And I thoroughly enjoy both in the right setting and given the right circumstances. If you’ve read my Armando series and my letter to potential stallions, I’ve essentially given the formula to turn me on. Notice that none of it mentions size of the man’s cock.

Fantasy VS Reality

Something I have noticed as I sit back and consider this lifestyle: there are definite differences between fantasy and reality. In other posts, I have mentioned how my stallions are indulgences of physical fantasy. With them, I experience the wonderful thrill of newness and the joys of the unexpected. I’ll be honest though that dating for a vixen is still the dating everyone else experiences, complete with the build and maintenance required to present the best self at all times. It’s fun but it can also be tiring. This is why I love my life.

Views From The Stag

So I wake to the buzz of my cell ringing at near-two in the morning. It’s my wife. She’s out dancing. My immediate thought is, “Oh shit, is she ok?” I fumble for the phone. “I need to be honest,” my wife says after she assures me everything is great, “Armando kissed me tonight.” Now let’s backtrack a few steps to give some context before diving in and unpacking everything that statement meant in the moment.

Benefits of Open Marriage

There’s a lot of backstory that led my husband and I to open marriage (see this post about How We Entered The Lifestyle). What I’d like to share, however, are some of the positives we have personally experienced, now that we are living it. Intimacy – We have never been more together. This lifestyle requires a constant stream of candid, empathetic communication and it has been incredible to experience.