Benefits of Open Marriage

There’s a lot of backstory that led my husband and I to open marriage (see this post about How We Entered The Lifestyle). What I’d like to share, however, are some of the positives we have personally experienced, now that we are living it. Intimacy – We have never been more together. This lifestyle requires a constant stream of candid, empathetic communication and it has been incredible to experience. Fantasy – I’ve mentioned this before, but there is a deep thrill in the fulfillment of physical fantasy. My arousal contexts are experiential and situational. Having the opportunity to feel that excitement of a new relationship over and over is incredible, especially given the next point. Security – My husband is and will always be my Mr. Forever. He is my reality. Nothing and no one could ever replace the investment of years and love we share together. I’d be an idiot to throw all that away for a fantasy. So there’s fantasy fulfillment and also security. Memories – Oh the stories and memories. Make no mistake, not all this is magic rainbows and unicorns (Read this story for a particularly cringe-worthy adventure). But all these are amazingly unique stories my husband and I will be sharing together for the rest of our lives. Sex – I mentioned the fantasy and excitement of a new relationship and it probably goes without saying but…the sex, too, obviously. The sex is incredible. And when it’s not, the stories are usually better. So, there are a few of the positives my husband and I have observed. I’d love to hear from some others on the good things you find in open marriage